TIPHIP Pr2

Slightly different PIPs possibly feeding “insecurity”

Slightly different PIPs possibly feeding “cheating”

Slightly different PIPs possibly feeding “ignoring”

Ignoring PIPs
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Slightly different PIPs possibly feeding “caving”

Slightly different PIPs possibly feeding “counterattacking”

Slightly different PIPs possibly feeding “protesting” (b)

Protesting PIPs (b)
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Slightly different PIPs possibly feeding “protesting” (a)

Protesting PIPs (a)
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Some ideas that could foster “setting and tolerating boundaries” (#30)

  • “Setting and enforcing some rules may help peaceful coexistence” 
  • “Asking for help makes you stronger”
  • “You need a village to raise a kid”
  • “Most of the time you can control how you respond to violence and avoid escalation”
  • “Inner negative voices sometimes block positive voices”
  •  “I can give myself time to think how you want to respond”
  • “I can give others the opportunity to hear more positive voices”
  • “Experimenting natural consequences of harming behavior can be a source of learning”
  • “Anger is not the best friend of good thinking”
  •  “Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
  •  “Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
  •  “I am not against them; I am against violence”
  • “It is not about ‘wining’ battles; it is about resisting violence”.
  • “Violent behavior is not acceptable; self-defence is”
  • “My intention may not be enough to obtain what I am after”
  • “It is easier to notice what bother you from a relationship than how you may contribute to it”
  • “You need two to tango”
  • “There are no bad people, only bad contexts; you need the right context to learn the right thing”
  •  “I can only control how I respond”
  • “Everyone can make, learn from, and make up for mistakes”.
  • “Disrupting bad things is just”

Some ideas that could foster “articulating and expressing emotions & needs” (#47)

  • “Anger is a statement; a way of expressing something we care about”
  • “Anger is a response to frustration of one’s needs/expectations”
  • “Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
  • “Anger management can be difficult; we learn better ways throughout a whole life”
  • “Anger and frustration management require time and help from caregivers”
  • “It’s easier for adults to manage frustration and anger (compared to children)”
  • “Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
  •  “When anger cannot find an outlet, a child may ‘regress’ and become even more ‘primitive’”
  • “Frustration of needs is probably inevitable but there are several ways in which we can manage this”
  • “My child believes I don’t love them”
  • “There is alternative to either ignore or impose your own needs; it´s called assertiveness”
  • “My child rejects my lack of empathy/acknowledgment”