Dominant Ideas feeding (SCIPS)

Some ideas that could foster “setting and tolerating boundaries” (#30)

“Setting and enforcing some rules may help peaceful coexistence”
“Asking for help makes you stronger”
“You need a village to raise a kid”
“Most of the time you can control how you respond to violence and avoid escalation”
“Inner negative voices sometimes block positive voices”
“I can give myself time to think how you want to respond”
“I can give others the opportunity to hear more positive voices”
“Experimenting natural consequences of harming behavior can be a source of learning”
“Anger is not the best friend of good thinking”
“Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
“Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
“I am not against them; I am against violence”
“It is not about ‘wining’ battles; it is about resisting violence”.
“Violent behavior is not acceptable; self-defence is”
“My intention may not be enough to obtain what I am after”
“It is easier to notice what bother you from a relationship than how you may contribute to it”
“You need two to tango”
“There are no bad people, only bad contexts; you need the right context to learn the right thing”
“I can only control how I respond”
“Everyone can make, learn from, and make up for mistakes”.
“Disrupting bad things is just”

“Anger is a statement; a way of expressing something we care about”
“Anger is a response to frustration of one’s needs/expectations”
“Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
“Anger management can be difficult; we learn better ways throughout a whole life”
“Anger and frustration management require time and help from caregivers”
“It’s easier for adults to manage frustration and anger (compared to children)”
“Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
“When anger cannot find an outlet, a child may ‘regress’ and become even more ‘primitive’”
“Frustration of needs is probably inevitable but there are several ways in which we can manage this”
“My child believes I don’t love them”
“There is alternative to either ignore or impose your own needs; it´s called assertiveness”
“My child rejects my lack of empathy/acknowledgment”

“Anger is a statement; a way of expressing something we care about”
“Anger is a response to frustration of one’s needs/expectations”
“Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
“Anger management can be difficult; we learn better ways throughout a whole life”
“Anger and frustration management require time and help from caregivers”
“It’s easier for adults to manage frustration and anger (compared to children)”
“Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
“When anger cannot find an outlet, a child may ‘regress’ and become even more ‘primitive’”
“Frustration of needs is probably inevitable but there are several ways in which we can manage this”
“My child believes I don’t love them”
“There is alternative to either ignore or impose your own needs; it´s called assertiveness”
“My child rejects my lack of empathy/acknowledgment”

“Violence is simply unacceptable; there’s nothing to talk about it”
“Kids should not/never show anger, it is a negative emotion”
“Anger is primitive/bad, kids should be able to control it”.
“Conflicts are bad, and should be avoided or ignored”
“My child is always whining/manipulating”.
“My child is impulsive/has a conduct disorder”
“Don’t be a girl”
“My parents don’t satisfy my wishes; hence then they don’t love me/they are mean”
“My needs are the only needs that matter”

“Anger is a statement; a way of expressing something we care about”
“Anger is a response to frustration of one’s needs/expectations”
“Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
“Anger management can be difficult; we learn better ways throughout a whole life”
“Anger and frustration management require time and help from caregivers”
“It’s easier for adults to manage frustration and anger (compared to children)”
“Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
“When anger cannot find an outlet, a child may ‘regress’ and become even more ‘primitive’”
“Frustration of needs is probably inevitable but there are several ways in which we can manage this”
“My child believes I don’t love them”
“There is alternative to either ignore or impose your own needs; it´s called assertiveness”
“My child rejects my lack of empathy/acknowledgment”

“Violence is simply unacceptable; there’s nothing to talk about it”
“Kids should not/never show anger, it is a negative emotion”
“Anger is primitive/bad, kids should be able to control it”.
“Conflicts are bad, and should be avoided or ignored”
“My child is always whining/manipulating”.
“My child is impulsive/has a conduct disorder”
“Don’t be a girl”
“My parents don’t satisfy my wishes; hence then they don’t love me/they are mean”
“My needs are the only needs that matter”

“My child feels incapable, they must be shown that they can do it, they should believe in themselves”
“My child thinks I am rejecting them, instead of their behaviour”
“My child doesn’t feel loved, they are avoiding rejection”
“If we try a little bit, like a snowball, overtime it will become giant”
“My child is unmotivated, they need support”
Add one yourself