Some ideas that could foster “setting and tolerating boundaries” (#30)

  • “Setting and enforcing some rules may help peaceful coexistence” 
  • “Asking for help makes you stronger”
  • “You need a village to raise a kid”
  • “Most of the time you can control how you respond to violence and avoid escalation”
  • “Inner negative voices sometimes block positive voices”
  •  “I can give myself time to think how you want to respond”
  • “I can give others the opportunity to hear more positive voices”
  • “Experimenting natural consequences of harming behavior can be a source of learning”
  • “Anger is not the best friend of good thinking”
  •  “Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
  •  “Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
  •  “I am not against them; I am against violence”
  • “It is not about ‘wining’ battles; it is about resisting violence”.
  • “Violent behavior is not acceptable; self-defence is”
  • “My intention may not be enough to obtain what I am after”
  • “It is easier to notice what bother you from a relationship than how you may contribute to it”
  • “You need two to tango”
  • “There are no bad people, only bad contexts; you need the right context to learn the right thing”
  •  “I can only control how I respond”
  • “Everyone can make, learn from, and make up for mistakes”.
  • “Disrupting bad things is just”

Some ideas that could foster “articulating and expressing emotions & needs” (#47)

  • “Anger is a statement; a way of expressing something we care about”
  • “Anger is a response to frustration of one’s needs/expectations”
  • “Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
  • “Anger management can be difficult; we learn better ways throughout a whole life”
  • “Anger and frustration management require time and help from caregivers”
  • “It’s easier for adults to manage frustration and anger (compared to children)”
  • “Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
  •  “When anger cannot find an outlet, a child may ‘regress’ and become even more ‘primitive’”
  • “Frustration of needs is probably inevitable but there are several ways in which we can manage this”
  • “My child believes I don’t love them”
  • “There is alternative to either ignore or impose your own needs; it´s called assertiveness”
  • “My child rejects my lack of empathy/acknowledgment”

Some ideas that could foster “articulating and expressing emotions & needs” (#47)

  • “Anger is a statement; a way of expressing something we care about”
  • “Anger is a response to frustration of one’s needs/expectations”
  • “Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
  • “Anger management can be difficult; we learn better ways throughout a whole life”
  • “Anger and frustration management require time and help from caregivers”
  • “It’s easier for adults to manage frustration and anger (compared to children)”
  • “Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
  •  “When anger cannot find an outlet, a child may ‘regress’ and become even more ‘primitive’”
  • “Frustration of needs is probably inevitable but there are several ways in which we can manage this”
  • “My child believes I don’t love them”
  • “There is alternative to either ignore or impose your own needs; it´s called assertiveness”
  • “My child rejects my lack of empathy/acknowledgment”

Some ideas that could foster “admitting mistakes” (#46)

  • “Deeds can be rejected without rejecting the doer”
  • “Empathy is the beginning of change”
  • “Everyone can make mistakes, and acknowledging them requires courage”
  •  “If my child experiences me as an ally, he might trust I will understand”
  • “The more they understand me, the more I want to make an effort”
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Some ideas that could foster “learning to identify needs of self and others” (#28)

  • “Anger is a statement; a way of expressing something we care about”
  • “Anger is a response to frustration of one’s needs/expectations”
  • “Anger can be understandable, despite not ‘agreeing’ with it”
  • “Anger management can be difficult; we learn better ways throughout a whole life”
  • “Anger and frustration management require time and help from caregivers”
  • “It’s easier for adults to manage frustration and anger (compared to children)”
  • “Helping express anger with words may prevent its expression with insults/throwing objects/hitting”
  •  “When anger cannot find an outlet, a child may ‘regress’ and become even more ‘primitive’”
  • “Frustration of needs is probably inevitable but there are several ways in which we can manage this”
  • “My child believes I don’t love them”
  • “There is alternative to either ignore or impose your own needs; it´s called assertiveness”
  • “My child rejects my lack of empathy/acknowledgment”

Some ideas that could foster “Selectively noticing other’s competences and successes” (#2)

  • “My child feels incapable, they must be shown that they can do it, they should believe in themselves”
  • “My child thinks I am rejecting them, instead of their behaviour”
  • “My child doesn’t feel loved, they are avoiding rejection”
  • “If we try a little bit, like a snowball, overtime it will become giant”
  • “My child is unmotivated, they need support”
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Some ideas that could foster “calming down” (#27)

  • “Neglect, unwillingness or opposition is one thing; lack of ability or self-confidence is different”.
  • “Anxiety (or feelings of inadequacy) usually interferes someone’s performance and skills”
  • “Express or repress (or supress): Hiding anxiety may make anxiety worse”
  •  “Being really understood is the best antidote for anguish, distress, and anxiety”
  • “Stating someone’s overt behavior is easy; understanding the underlying intention or state of mind can be more difficult”.
  • “Everyone may have a particular way of experiencing reality; without listening what’s going on for the other, there’s no way of understanding or helping the other”
  • “Empathy is the beginning of change”
  • “First you need time and help to put yourself together”
  • “Parental demandingness is not enough; warmth and sensitivity are also key for kids to flourish”
  • “Self-efficacy beliefs are key to perform well”

Some ideas that could foster “Exercising inner control” (#1)

  • “My child rejects outer control (maybe he wants to learn how to self-control)”
  • “Her misconduct is a form of protest against maltreatment”
  • “Controlling oneself is not easy: it requires a lot of practice and support”
  • “Children have a natural need/desire for autonomy”
  • “Her protest is a call for help”